Casual Dating Texting Rules: How Often Should You Text Someone?

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Casual dating can be difficult for those who have just started looking for a casual partner. It may take some time to get used to a different type of relationship, and because of that, you may find yourself wondering about many things.

You might get confused and ask yourself questions such as “What should I do now?”, “How do I start a conversation?”, “How often should I text them?”, “What should I even talk about?”, etc.

We know that it can get complicated when you switch from ordinary dating to casual dating because they differ in many aspects. Texting is one of them.

When you date someone and want an ordinary relationship with them, you will probably want to text them all day and focus only on them. Well, casual dating is quite the opposite: you shouldn’t text them as much, and you can text as many people as you want.

We will discuss texting rules for casual dating below, so consider them for your next casual relationship, but first, let’s see how often you should text someone.

How often should you text someone?

Since we are talking about casual dating, you wouldn’t want to text someone you are interested in too much or too little. Once you start texting someone, you should wait at least two days before texting them again.

Of course, you should put your potential partner to the test and wait to see if they text first. That way, you’ll find out if they are interested in you.

Our advice is to take things slow. Don’t text too much in the beginning. Texting your casual future partner 2-3 times a week is optimal.

If you start texting more frequently, you might want to consider having a deep conversation about where you are going. That might signify a more intense connection than just a casual relationship.

Now that we know how often to text, let’s move on to some texting rules for casual dating.

1. Pay attention to your grammar

Checking your spelling and grammar is a big part of texting. If you ignore it, you might look uninterested or even uneducated.

Moreover, if you are not using proper grammar and spelling, some misunderstandings might occur. You wouldn’t want your partner scratching their head while trying to figure out what you wanted to tell them in a text, right?

Use proper grammar because you will appear more attractive and educated.

Good grammar is essential while texting; you will surely leave a good first impression if you text someone with proper grammar and spelling.

2. Don’t pretend

Imagine texting someone who seems so romantic and educated, uses all the “big words,” and makes you feel special over texts. Then, you meet them in person and get disappointed to the utter point of disgust.

Don’t try to be someone you’re not. It is easy to fake your personality over texts, but that will get you nowhere. You probably wouldn’t like that to happen to you.

There are many cases where people are entirely different over text and in person, and those people rarely find a partner due to their behavior.

It is crucial to be yourself and honest; there is nothing to be ashamed of about you. You will undoubtedly find someone who will like you the way you are. If not, people will respect you for being honest and showing them your true self.

3. Don’t send long messages

We understand that you are excited you’ve met someone with whom you might step into a casual relationship. We also all know that the beginning of any relationship is magical and fun, but don’t let these feelings guide your decisions.

If you are feeling some connection with someone, don’t write texts that are as long as book chapters. If you have something important to say to them, you need to tell them in person.

That also goes for ending a relationship. If your current casual relationship is simply not working for you, don’t text your partner with all the explanations. Instead, invite them out and tell them everything on your mind; they will respect you more.

4. Don’t start a conversation with a “Hello”

If you want to start a conversation with someone you are interested in, don’t use “hi/hey/hello.” You may appear boring to the other person.

Instead, try to get creative and start the conversation with a question or something you know you have in common.

You can always send them a song or a meme because these are good conversation openers.

You can also use a funny pun to make them laugh and make them interested in continuing a conversation with you.

Remember, you need to leave an excellent first impression, and the best way to do it is to get creative when starting a conversation.

5. Don’t use cliches

Cliches are great if your goal is to push someone away. Nothing is interesting or attractive about cliches, so avoid using them.

No one will fall for something familiar and overused. If you use cliches, you will let your partner know that nothing is interesting about you and that you are probably still living in the past.

If you are all out of ideas, you can always google some good conversation openers that inspire you to be creative.

Remember that every person is unique, so you must have something to make you stand out from the crowd (and cliches are not it).

6. Don’t put pressure on them

You and your future partner might have been texting for a while now. You feel the time has come to go out with them. You’ve invited them several times, but they were unable to schedule a date with you.

If that is the case, don’t pressure your potential casual partner. You need to understand that they have other plans. Don’t start asking them out every day or get mad because they have no time for your date.

You wouldn’t want someone to put pressure on you, so you shouldn’t do that to others. Instead, be cool about it and wait for their schedule to clear up.

If you put pressure on them, you might end up with no date; no one likes to be pushed into something they have no time for at the moment. You can only make your potential partner nervous and agitated.

7. Don’t wait for a response

Have you been waiting for their text the whole day? Do they never seem to be online, making you feel left out?

That might be because they live a busy life, and they only look at their phone once they get a chance. We advise you not to wait around for that “ding” with the phone in your hand at all times.

After all, this is casual dating – you won’t even text as much. You need to respect your potential partner’s time and schedule and be patient.

If you find yourself waiting for a text, you should stop and consider what you want because waiting around for someone isn’t casual.

That might be a sign that you are looking for something more serious. If you feel that way toward someone, you need to tell them right away.

8. Don’t ghost them

Ghosting is just awful. It shows no respect for the other person, and you will probably regret it afterward. If you don’t want to text or date someone, you need to tell them.

Being honest with yourself and others is crucial, especially in dating. When it comes to casual dating, ghosting will get you nowhere. Ghosting can sometimes be painful, and you wouldn’t want to hurt someone on purpose.

Instead, share your feelings, telling them that you’re no longer interested in continuing the communication, and no one will get hurt.

When you ghost someone, it might leave them confused or even worried. It is always best to be straightforward with other people.

9. Don’t overthink it

We have all probably been in a situation where we got a text that we didn’t know how to respond to because we didn’t want to say the wrong thing. We kept re-reading the text, trying to find the deeper meaning behind it.

That falls under overthinking, which is a no-go in casual dating.

Casual dating is all about having fun and going with the flow. You are not exactly going with the flow once you start overthinking the texts.

Instead, try to be relaxed when you text someone and keep in mind that the goal of casual dating is to be happy and not overwhelmed. The whole point is to enjoy texting other people without any headaches.

10. Avoid modern texting abbreviations

Using abbreviations while texting is not cool; quite the opposite. You may give your potential partner the impression that you are lazy or don’t know how to spell a particular word.

In the world of modern abbreviations, you will stand out if you use complete words and sentences. The sad truth is that people have gotten so used to abbreviations that they have forgotten how to spell many words.

You might even get more respect since you are different from many people your potential partner texts daily. Also, writing abbreviations won’t save you time, so using them is unnecessary.

Oh, and, BTW, your SO won’t be so impressed if they have to google everything you are saying, TBH.

11. Emoji rules

Yes, emojis are pretty popular nowadays. However, should we use them for casual dating texting? If yes, how much should we use them?

The truth is emojis can be cute if you put them in proper context. However, using emojis in every text and inserting more than two is not the best idea.

Instead, use proper emojis for the context of your text. If it is something romantic, you can use a heart at the end, and that’s it. If something is funny, you can use a laughing emoji. Don’t use emojis in every text you send because you may appear childish.

Some people like to express themselves through emojis, but this isn’t the best way to communicate with someone. After all, you are trying to talk and get to know someone better, and that won’t be the case if you want to replace words with emojis.

Our recommendation is, as mentioned above, to use simple yet effective emojis that are suitable for the context of your text, nothing more than that.

12. Don’t be pessimistic

Casual dating is all about having a good time once in a while. The same goes for texting your casual (potential) partner. You might want to save the negative vibes for when it becomes more serious (although staying positive is the key anytime).

In the casual dating world, everyone just wants to escape their everyday stresses and problems and relax for some time. So, when you bring negativity into such a relationship, it probably won’t last.

Instead, try to focus on the positive things in your life. When you text someone, make sure that your goal is to laugh and have a good time. That way, you can enjoy the connection you have.


Casual dating is an excellent way to relax and have a good time with someone. However, you will start texting before jumping into your no-strings-attached relationship once you meet someone.

You have now learned some of the essential texting rules that you should follow to establish a healthy connection with someone.

The most crucial thing is to remember that you are here to be stress-free and enjoy your connection with someone.

With that being said, you need to be yourself when you text someone and be honest with them. Avoid bringing negativity into the relationship because it might only scare your partner away. Just be honest and genuine, have fun, and you will have a fantastic experience!